Some of you may be surprised by the unbridled optimism I displayed in the previous post, where I announced my engagement to B. In the past I’ve mentioned my indifference towards the institution of marriage. But since ‘all this’ happened, it has come to mean a lot more to me.
It’s partly due to the gravity of the title. I think I have earned ‘wife’ status. Girlfriend isn’t a suitable mantle for any woman over the age of 18. Partner is very businesslike. Life Partner is gag-inducing.
Rightly or wrongly, the unmarried equivalents of ‘wife’ just don’t carry the same air of authority. For example, which response is preferable?
Doctor/nurse/medical secretary: Who are you?
Option 1: I’m his girlfriend, umm, partner. We live together. I’m ‘the one’.
Option 2: I’m his wife.
I’m not saying we’re getting married just for reasons of of brevity when talking to medical staff, but it will be handy. I’ve actually been using Option 2 for a while anyway, but it will be nicer when it’s true.